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I am not empowered.


That’s the big deal now. That is what is trending and cool. My choice. My being. Me.

If you’re wondering what I am talking about, it’s the recently launched video by Vogue Empower with Deepika Padukone, a huge Bollywood megastar. It’s already gone viral which is no surprise because it is powerful visually and intellectually but then I stop to ask myself if it is empowering. After all, that was the purpose of it .

The video speaks truth from one perspective. It’s free choices we make that define what becomes of our lives. We all have the right to choose. But in it, I also see a message of narcissism, indifference, adultery, infidelity and plain selfishness. That is why, I question this video.

Because I do not feel empowered.

Adultery.Sadism. Indifference.

How could I possibly say that “my pleasure” could even be at the cost of causing pain to someone else? How do we justify causing pain?

Isn’t it the women who complain when men cheat? Or cause them pain? Am I not the one who hates indifference? Don’t we ask for the world to understand us?

And when did sin ever become the weapon that is used in the fight against patriarchy?

To me, this video is selfish. The writer is selfish. Because, it’s all about “ME”. All about “MY” choices.

If this is the case of women, then men can also say it is their choice to oppress. Yes, we have free choice but just because we’re women does not mean every choice is the right choice. Sin does not empower.

So. I am sorry, Deepika Padukone. I am sorry, Homi Adajania. I’ve always loved it when people stand for things they believe in. But today, I am just supremely disappointed.

So instead,

I choose love, empathy, selflessness, goodness, righteousness, excellence, faithfulness and compassion.

This is my choice.

I choose to be empowered.